Let your fountain be blessed,
and rejoice in the wife of your youth.
Proverbs 5:18

Sex is God’s idea. It is God’s creation. It is God’s gift.

The Bible is completely positive about sex in marriage. Consider Proverbs 5:18-19, a passage that is almost embarrassingly candid and expressive:

Let your fountain be blessed,

and rejoice in the wife of your youth,

a lovely deer, a graceful doe.

Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight;

be intoxicated always in her love.

God is saying to every married couple: Enjoy your sexual relationship! This is my gift to you! Have fun! Husbands, take delight in the playful beauty and gracefulness of your wife’s body! Be intoxicated, ravished, by her love!

This may not be the way you thought of God and sex. But this is the biblical perspective. Sex is God’s gift. In itself, sex is completely good.

Yes, sex can be abused. It is like fire. In the fireplace, fire is a good thing, giving warmth and light. But out of the fireplace, fire can do great damage.

Sex is that way. It is completely good in marriage, but outside of marriage, it can do great damage. Sex needs the context of a loving, committed, trust-filled marriage. Sex needs this context because it is so powerful.

For sex is not just the merger of two bodies, but the merger of two hearts, two souls. Whenever a man and a woman have sex, there is a channel cut between their souls, a channel of emotional intimacy. A channel of spiritual intimacy. A channel intended by God to express tender love and deep oneness.

You cannot do that casually. You can only do that within the safety and security of lifetime love. No wonder people get so hurt when they abuse God’s gift of sex!

Sex is good. Enjoy it to the hilt in marriage! But it is for marriage only. It is simply too powerful for any place other than a committed, loving, secure marriage.